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Trying to make friends at all in your 20s and 30s can have you feeling like the new kid on the playground again. A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that it took adults about 94 hours to turn acquaintances into casual friendsand an average of hours to turn casual friends in to friends. Add in some post-pandemic social anxiety and a new city, and making new friends becomes quite the challenge. In June, Monse, 25, moved from Kansas to Dallas, Texas, for a new job, which went virtual days after she ed her new lease.
According to life coach Erica McCurdythe key to making friends in your new town is making a commitment to something. While the basic places — worknetworking groupsand bars — can be good options for finding your new group sometimes new friends are hiding in much more obscure places. Online shopping is great, but when you move to a new city, going shopping IRL can help you immerse yourself in your community and meet people drawn to same things. Go to your local bookstore and inquire about open-enrollment books clubs.
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Love to run? Go to your local sporting goods store and ask about running groups that train on weekends. Plus, you'll be supporting local businesses while you're at it. You know that table in the front of basically every coffee shop?
The one with business cards and flyers? Actually read it. You'll never know what might pique your interest — these flyers advertise things like interest-based meet up groups, local events, clubs and organizations.
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You might find out about some virtual meet ups that will feel even less intimidating to go to. Dogs are the best. Yes, they make you happy, but they can also help you make new friends.
If you are dogless but still looking to find some four-legged companions in your new city, try Wag or Roverwhich connect dog walkers and sitters with people whose pets need walking or sitting. You'll find some like-minded dog people in no time and make a little spare cash to boot. There are so many apps that work to help you," DeWall says. Check out the Groups tab on Facebook and search for your neighborhood, city, or interests, and groups to meet like-minded locals and learn about events in your area.
Finding a faith community that resonates with you can help create a really solid foundation as you build a life for yourself in a new place. When you move to a new place, traditions can make you feel at home, and the routine of a spiritual or religious practice can be extra comforting during a time of upheaval.
Most of our friend groups are built out around meeting friends-of-friends ad infinitum. But that process can feel disrupted when you make a new city your home.
Looking to build new friendships? these tips can help you meet people, start a conversation, and cultivate healthy connections that will improve your life and well-being.
Luckily, even if you're far away, you can still rely on your existing friends for support. Tell friends and colleagues when you're planning a move and then — most importantly — ask them if they know anyone in the area and if they can make an introduction," Jaclyn Schiff, media consultant and digital nomadtells Bustle. So post a "looking for recommendations" status on Facebook, or an update on your Instagram Story, and see who comes out of the woodwork.
It might surprise you who's already in your new city.
In all the hustle and bustle of your new life, you may forget that exercise is often also about community. And a lot of cities have whole social circles built around that idea. Recreational sports leagues and group workout classes are a great way to making friends as an adult. You can also Google "rec league" and your town name and see what you find. McCurdy suggests turning your passions into friend-making opportunities.
If you're feeling less like going to tons of events, the internet can also be on your side for this one. Then from there, meet ups and friendships naturally happen. So if you're already part of a group for a podcast you love or in support of a cause, you can check out if other members are already living where you're moving. Moving is already incredibly brave, but if you're having trouble recognizing that in yourself, give yourself a dose of something extra-thrilling by trying something totally new. Getting out and actually trying new things is going to be the key to building your new social circle.
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One out-of-the-box idea to meet people as an adult? Find them through their geotagged pictures on Instagram. Catherine, 33, made a new friend during the pandemic using this method. The two followed each other on Instagram and kept in touch through DMs. This could get a conversation going or even score plans to dine together. Bonus points for puppy-inspired icebreakers. Once people start to reach out, you can plan a time and place to meet.
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Keep an eye out for bulletin boards, flyer stands, and neighborhood groups online that advertise clubs and organizations and submit your own ideas to take the lead. Hall, J. How many hours does it take to make a friend?
Hall, SAGE Journals. Updated: Sep. Originally Published: April 12, Here are some unexpected ways to make friends in a new city.