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I'm currently single and have been for the past two years. I have a hard time finding actual relationships with people. I've had many opportunities for casual sex though and have actually followed through with it one time. I don't know what it is about me that finds casual sex to be so horrible. The only time I had casual sex was with a friend I met through my ex.

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Communication in casual relationships can feel like a minefield, but it's safe to say most people know that it's not actually cool to be aloof in a relationship, even if it is "undefined. And there are ways to avoid the early morning "u up? And some people might disagree, but I think it's actually more important in casual relationships," Dr.

Tanisha M. The "go with the flow" mentality might seem like the path of least resistance, but it's really not. You need to know you're on the same .

Express your needs up front

Often, neither party is being honest because they are afraid of hurting the other person's feelings or not getting what they ultimately want," Monica Parikh, dating and relationships coachtells Bustle. Having a solid relationship with yourself and feeling open to clear communication with friends and family can make broaching these difficult topics with casual partners more stress-free. Ranger says. And it's way easier than it seems.

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From the get-go, if you want something casual, you should be open and honest about that. And you should expect the same from your partner. Let the person know where they stand with you. For example, 'I'm interested in dating but am not wanting to be exclusive at the moment.

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Does that work for you? On the flip side, if you don't want to be casual forever, that's something to express. If you tell your partner early on, there will be fewer surprises and potential hurt in the long-run. One of the worst things about dating is trying to navigate all those unwritten rules. But you can avoid them by setting your own parameters in your own casual relationship.

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Time, for example, is an important factor to consider. Whatever works for you.

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Remember, it's not an ultimatum, but a mutual conversation when you share your needs. There's no way you can figure these parameters out without a clear line of communication between the two of you; otherwise it's just a guessing game. An oldie but a goodie, "I" statements are the star of any communicative relationship.

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This means saying things like "I feel frustrated" or "I feel hurt" instead using phrases that inadvertently blame your partner. On top of that, don't subject your partner to harsh language about their behavior. Walfish says. Plus, adjusting your language to be personal instead of accusatory can keep the pressure off your relationship when you want to keep things easy-going.

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If you are looking to get to know your partner better, or have more interesting conversations, it's all about the way you talk to them. If you're looking to switch up your small talk, try the baby step of changing how you ask them about their day. In other words, don't simply ask, 'How are you?

If you're not seeing each other as much as you would a committed partner, it can make the "how was your week? Beyond asking questions, sharing your own thoughts can help a casual relationship grow, too.

10 tips for communicating with someone you're seeing casually

You may worry that it's "too much" for a casual relationship, but it's not. Don't dump. Be human. All of us struggle at times.

When you share and expose your vulnerability the other person feels safe to do the same with you," Dr. Remember: honest is best. Parikh suggests using three steps to set your expectations around sex in a casual relationship. Express a need 'I need to communicate with you'. Say your truth in one-two sentences 'I don't want to have sex without protection'. Then set a consequence. Obviously you don't need to follow these exact guidelines, but it's crucial to practice safe and communicative sex.

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Honesty is important in the bedroom too. So try your utmost not to "fake it. If you don't feel like you can be completely honest about what you're experiencing with this person, it's just not worth it. Even if it's just casual. Keep your needs, wants, joys, and pleasures at the forefront of your mind," Dr. Really it's all about setting healthy expectations and enjoying yourself in the relationship. I'm not advocating brutal honesty, as I feel that honesty without tact is just cruelty.

But don't be coy," Dr. Being honest about sex and all other things will make things much easier in the long-run.

Being in a casual relationship might mean you're often in 'casual' settings, like bars, or hanging out around friends. But those environments aren't the best for more serious conversations. You don't want to have people at the brewery hear you define the relationship. Arguments happen. That's OK. There's a myriad of tactics you can use to make them less hostile and scary.

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Some of the simplest ones should work for your casual relationship. First and foremost, make sure you're actually listening to your partner.

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And it can be really, really tempting to interrupt someone who's upsetting you, but don't. If your partner is the type to ice you out instead of argue, openly observe that so that the reality of the situation is out in the open. This means you are tuned in and observing reactions and behavior. For example, You're really quiet. Seems like you don't agree. You look upset. This opens the door for the person to share what's going on — without overwhelming them with questions," MacLeod says.

A good as opposed to a toxic argument can be really refreshing. An argument doesn't have to be the kiss of death for a casual couple; it can actually be an opportunity to learn and grow. You may think that because you defined the relationship as one thing, you don't have a right to want that to change. That simply isn't true. We get into this rigid place where we think, 'this is what I agreed to, so this is what I have to do,'" Dr.

You can avoid that fear by being honest with yourself and your partner. This applies to when one or both people wants to become more than just casual, and when one or both people is no longer wants to be attached at all. It is perfectly natural to feel anxious about this," Dr. So avoid staying in something you don't want by making open communication a constant in your relationship, even if it's not "committed.

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There's a taboo around being open and honest with someone you're seeing "casually," but it doesn't need to be that way. Mind games begoneit's time for you to get what you really want. By Eva Taylor Grant. Here are 10 communication tips that work even in casual relationships, according to experts.

Sexual relationships need open and honest communication almost more than any others. And Don't Fake It.

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